9 Effective Ways Emotionally Intelligent People Handle Toxic People

Sometimes toxic people make their way into our lives without us realizing it. They can go unnoticed for quite some time and when all is said and done, not many people know how to deal with them.

If you are dealing with a toxic person whether it is a close friend or even a romantic partner there are tons of different things you can do. The following is a list of the best strategies I have found for dealing with a toxic person. Sometimes you have to do more and other times less but you should always remember to never allow the toxic person to continue on as they have been.

9 Strategies to Use When Dealing With Toxic People:

1. Ignore the attention seekers

Toxic people often seek attention at all costs. These people will always find a way to make things about them no matter what the situation is. Do not give them the attention they crave.

2. Stop sharing your secrets with gossipers

Just because this person is willing to listen does not mean you should be sharing with them. Toxic people tend to gossip about other people behind their backs. If they will do it about someone else to you they will do it about you to someone else.

3. Explore how you react to these people and the things they do

Take a look at how you allow yourself to react to these people. Are you giving toxic people exactly what they want? While it will be hard to try and do the opposite of what they want you to it will benefit you in the long run.

4. Trust your gut

When your gut sends you a bad vibe about someone most of the time you should trust it. Know yourself and when your inner being is warning you of a bad person. Toxic people are not good company to keep.

5. Do not allow yourself to get involved in petty drama

Stop letting people drag you into unneeded drama. You have your life and should not be wasting your time with it. Getting caught up in all the pettiness is only pushing you behind in life.

6. Set boundaries for this person or cut them out completely depending on your situation

While these people won’t like it, if they must remain in your life boundaries will have to be set. Don’t let them push you into giving in and flexing with your boundaries. Set them and stick to them.

7. Prepare for retaliation

Remember that when you start doing these things the person will retaliate in some form. If they have any secrets if your’s chances are they will tell them to everyone. Just be prepared.

8. Do not try to normalize abusive behavior

Toxic behavior is not normal. No matter what this person says to you there is nothing wrong with limiting their presence in your life. You are doing what is best for you.

9. Be in control of your own emotions

Know that your emotions are your own and if you choose not to let this person bother you then they won’t. Don’t overreact to their retaliation and don’t stoop to their level. You are better than that.