More often than not children are born into this world unloved, while you might not think about the issues that ensue, there are plenty. When a child does not have his or her emotional needs met ,as they grow up their development and personality growth is altered.
We all have different things to face as we grow up, but an absent mother or father that says emotions shouldn’t be shown can do a lot more damage than you think. Below I am going to go over some of the behaviors you might note in those who grew up with parents that did not meet their emotional needs. Being emotionally neglected is just as serious as being physically neglected, just because you cannot see the effects without looking closely does not mean they aren’t present.
12 Things People Who Were Unloved As Children Struggle With As Adults:
They struggle with trusting the people around them because of how their childhood was. They won’t be able to really believe that others are going to follow through because their parents never did. While sometimes they will give a little, most of the time they will opt to do things themselves.
2. They tend to opt for toxic relationships.
They tend to be more drawn to the things they find familiar. They find themselves in toxic relationship after toxic relationship. Even when they think they’ve found someone worth being with things take a turn for the worst. They do this subconsciously.
3. They tend to feel overly isolated.
Even in the most social settings they feel closed off and isolated. They are often alone in their minds rather than open and speaking with those around them. While they might do well in social settings they aren’t feeling the way they are portraying themselves.
4. They struggle with boundaries.
They let people walk all over their personal boundaries. They don’t know how to truly say no to others and because of this end up being treated as a doormat. This is devastating and should not be happening.
They don’t want to fail or be rejected; both of these things are easily their biggest fears. They do all they can to please others.
6. They have a hard time opening up.
Opening up is never easy for them, and they struggle to let other people in. The closer you try to get the more closed off they become.
7. They have low self-esteem.
They have much lower self-esteem than you would think that they would have. They don’t see themselves in the ways you see them. They aren’t on the same wavelength, they must work within to find confidence.
8. They tend to feel guilty when thinking about their own needs.
They don’t like to think about their own needs. Whenever they do something for themselves they feel guilty. They feel like they should always be putting their time and effort into others.
9. They become attached to people too easily.
They become overly attached quickly. If you show them any kindness or love they will cling to it. While they don’t usually realize they are doing this, they are.
10. They tend to be quite anxious.
They tend to be much more anxious than others. They get worked up about some of the silliest things and they set themselves up for failure. They are very emotional and do not know how to handle those emotions.
11. They struggle to actually embrace their emotions.
They are not very emotionally intelligent. They tend to repress their emotions and hide their feelings within; this is not healthy.
12. They question everything positive in their lives.
They question the feelings of everyone around them. If you tell them you love them they will never truly believe it. This is because they were never offered such words growing up.