The first rule of parenting is that there are no rules. Every child is different. And the same rules do not work for every child. By experience and by getting to know your child, you can make your own set of rules to guide him/her.
Despite the fact that every child is different, one thing that is universal in all kids is that for them you are not merely their parents but also their role models and heroes. They try to emulate what you speak or do. Your speech and actions affect them tremendously.
Therefore as a parent, you need to be careful about what you say to your child. Remember. Children are sensitive and this is the age when they would form a foundation of their future lives. While there is no need to ‘prison-guard’ him/her, a few important things should be kept in mind during interactions with your kid.
Here are some phrases that you should refrain from saying to your children:
“Stop Crying Right Now”
Try to understand the reason behind their crying. Always asking them to not cry will programme them to supress their emotions. At times, kids cry for trivial reasons. Try to handle the situation in another manner.
You disappoint me
“I am disappointed in you”
Children commit all kinds of mistakes. They are still in the learning phase. Instead of telling your children that they have disappointed you by their acts, make an attempt to let children understand their mistake so they are careful about not repeating it in future.
You are worthless
“You Are Not (Someone) Enough”
No one is perfect. Saying things like “You are a worthless kid” will lower the morale of your children. Instead, help them where they are lacking. Your opinion matters the world to your children. Never let them feel that you think lowly of them.
You are fat
Never label your children negatively. If they are getting obese, you can help them get a balanced diet. Encourage them to be more active and less sedentary. Help them change their lifestyle.
You are a bad child
Your child may have some bad habits. But that doesn’t make him/her wholly bad. Make your children aware of such habits. Habits are hard to break. Help your children work on them.