- Don’t give in to the toxic person’srequests
The first step is to make sure that you are no longer giving these people everything they demand. Toxic personsalmost always want what they want, and they want it right now. These people demand that everyone around them provide to their every whim and demand it without even thinking to give anything back.
Private coach and author Preston Ni, M.S.B.A. said, “No one can please everyone all the time, so please don’t even try. People who receive your thankless and unreciprocated giving on a regular basis are also more likely to take it for granted. There’s power that comes with exercising your right to set boundaries and say “no”.”
When you stop giving in, the toxic person realizes that you can’t be pushed around anymore. They may try to regain their control over you, but standing firmand refusing to give them what they demandlets them knowthey’ll have to look for it elsewhere. Such an attitude will allow you to let go of your attachment more easily once they’re no longer relying on you to give them what they want.
- Put your own needs first
You are the one and only person that you can truly rely on 100%. You may be able to lean on your friends, relatives,and significant others to help you in times of need or trouble, but you are always going to be the first and only person to cover your own back. So, put yourself first and remain in this position.
“What often happens to those who simply give in and put themselves last is that eventually – sooner rather than later, one hopes—that person will realize that she or he is unhappy and resentful, more so when they realize it’s their own responsibility in this,” explains Isadora Alman, M.F.T, a licensed therapist, lecturer,and author.
For this reason, put your needs wayabove the needs of a toxic person who is currently present in your life. Learn to replace your harmful attachment of the toxic individual with a healthy attachment for yourself. Learn to love yourself, and release all your feelings that you carry for that toxic person. Learning to trust and rely onyourself and put your needs first is the best method to make sure that you are no longer depending onyour attachments toa toxic person.
- Question the toxic people you know
Toxic people are often living their life without being questioned about their own behavior. By questioning what they’re doing and saying, and the reasons for their actions and words, you will learn to break up the toxic mindset that you might have adopted due to the presence of a toxic person. Once you start questioning their entire world, you’ll find that their answers just don’t make any sense. These people may be saying and doing things for their own personal benefit – which means they probably don’tand never did care about you as you thought. Once you realize that these peopledon’t really appreciate and respect you, breaking your attachment to them will be much easier.